Geting The Most From Romantic Relationships
You can improve how good your relationship is. A few basic guidelines will make your relationship more enjoyable and beneficial for both of you.
A romantic relationship has many benefits: companionship, being inspired by someone elseīs example, and stimulation by the other personīs ideas. Keep in mind that those benefits are there and that they are important.
Donīt use a relationship as a way to solve your problems. Dating and marriage are not ways to overcome unhappiness, escape from boredom, and improve self-image. You must do those things for yourself. Using a relationship for those reasons puts burdens on the relationship that make it less pleasant and less rewarding.
Your gotta be tolerant. A relationship is a place for honesty and openness. Those principles allow a couple to share ideas and to gradually change in ways that let them more enjoy living. Your attitude should signal the other person that you will try to patiently work through each otherīs shortcomings. If thatīs too much strain, decide that separation is best and graciouly part company without bitterness.
Romance and love will more likely happen if you allow them to happen instead of making them a goal. Making the relationship better should be the goal. Pay attention to treating each other fairly and helping each other. If love happens, it will be based on believing that both of you can continue to build a good relationship.
Donīt expect a perfect relationship. That happens only in fairy tales. If you expect too much, it makes your relationship less valuable by comparison. Problems will occur. You will get hurt. Donīt be so concerned with minor problems that you loose awareness of what is good in the relationship. When appropriate, offer advice not the threat of disapproval. You want to develop a spirit of mutual benefit.
Respect each otherīs attitude about physical affection. Be patient. Your partner is not a mind reader and may not be aware of the problem. If something about the physical part of the relationship is a big issue for you, let your concerns be known. Being aware of a problem is the first step in solving a problem. Anxiety about a problem can be lessened just by knowing that the other person is aware of the problem.
Take time for mutual interests. This can be in many forms including hobbies, conversation, recreation, an interest in art, and family activities. Mutual interests keep a couple from gradually becoming uninvolved in each otherīs lives.
Encourage your partner to act and make decisions. Both of you will be able to accomplish more with the otherīs support and encouragement. When there is a disagreement, donīt automatically think it is necessary to correct the other person. Your encouragement will produce more good results than will your objections.
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